“Do not look up to anyone, do not look down at anyone”
So this girl… let’s call her “X” this time, came up to me, probably for the first time and said, “You’re good.” I didn’t get it. “What do you mean I’m good?”
“You know, a lot around say things about you, not good things though. But in reality, you’re actually a good person. You can change yourself.” she said. And I replied, “It’s not me. I’ve always been this way. It is them who have to change, and that part is not in my hands. Just let it go….”
So a lot of people have numerous views about me. Some good, others…not so much. The ones who consider I’m good are the ones who stick with me. Whereas the others, most of whom I’ve never actually talked to or probably ever seen before, say other things about me. Things they know nothing clearly about, just rumors.
My best guess is that ‘Jealousy’ has its fair share here, a natural human tendency… Anyway, I’m not here to defend myself on what people say about me. I’m just here to talk about Prejudice.
So how it really is
When there’s a person who strives to rise up, there are always people to bring him or her down. They have their own reasons for it, you name it. Hatred, jealousy, greed, etc. Some of these people have no intention of hurting the ones they speak about, but they do. It sometimes feels like its natural.
Prejudice is an opinion or a view about someone whom you’ve never met. An opinion that isn’t based on reason. Most of the times, it so happens that people who detest you are the ones who instill these opinions in others minds. Now, the rest of them, they don’t talk about you because they care, they just find it entertaining. Whether the rumor is positive or negative isn’t the main concern. Now, if you’ve observed my Instagram account’s bio, I’ve put it as “I feel bad for you …as you waste time going through this profile.”
I’ve put it up because it’s true. I see a number of people visiting my profile every week (I won’t reveal numbers, sorry no can do). Here and there, once in a while, I hear some stories of my own hitting back on me. I usually laugh it off because of half of the stories aren’t even true. Not even close. I never did try to find any of these amazing story cookers. Because if I did, there would be no difference between them and me.
So when you’re traveling on a path, a path probably different from the rest. People no doubt start to criticize. Now it’s up to you on how to face it. Either you can go face to face with them and waste time quarreling and defending yourself and probably end up in a mixed up cauldron of emotions. Ending up like the rest. Or you can ignore them.
Ignore them till they have nothing to say. Ignore in such a way, that the controversies that fly about you, do not affect you in any way. It might be tough, but it’s worth the effort. The moment you achieve for what you’d been working for, all those people who had nothing to do apart from speaking about you will have no choice, but to look up to you.
They spoke and enjoyed the time, speaking about you. But when they realize the time they’ve wasted. The time with which they could’ve achieved whatever they wished for, it’ll be too late. So many people have fallen only because of their inability to look at the way things really are.
There probably isn’t more I can say on this, apart from telling more stories. It depends on how you understand it. Over a period of time, I’ve come to realize a few things. When one speaks, he speaks based on his emotion at that instant of time. Half of his words are vaguely heard by the next person which creates a mindset about someone or something. So prejudice, according to me, shouldn’t lie anywhere.
A few simple things…
There are a few simple things that I do to keep myself the best way possible. Still, there are a million ways that I can improve, but it takes time and thought…and also constant alertness.
- Never speak of anyone. If anyone asks me about someone, I only tell if I’ve actually experienced speaking with that person.
- Never ask anything about anyone, including names. Everyone has their own perception of others, so don’t fall for that. If I want to know someone’s name, I ask directly. Once a person asked, “All these days, you used to say ‘hi’ and you never knew my name?” And I replied, “How could I know? YOU never told me”
- Being straightforward… no matter if the person in front of me is a junior of mine or a lecturer, or anyone. I tell them exactly what’s on my mind. There was a small incident that occurred a few years back. I was visiting a tuition class teacher for the first time. He told me that the class starts at 5:30 am. I told him it was too early. He started persuading, “You know, girls from far off come here by bus in the morning. And you being near are declining it.” I told, “I don’t care who comes here at what time. Don’t tell me that. I said I won’t come.” He was one of the lecturers of the tuition, who probably never expected a reply this way, so he just sat. I smiled and walked out.
Anyway, that’s all for now… this was comparatively a short one according to me. Thank you for your time.
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Until next time!