Life lets us ask for what we want, but gives us only what we deserve.
First, let me clear some things up. After reading this article don’t expect yourself to be motivated and start working rigorously in such a way that you’ll succeed by tomorrow. (Don’t worry, even I expect that… but there’s no shortcut to success). This is just an experience I’m sharing with you guys when I tried to get motivated. The title “Getting Motivated…” doesn’t light up any ideologies of motivation. This is just my perception of how I respond to the act of motivation. Secondly, since this topic flays in the category of philosophy, some people may find it interesting and informative. While some I assume, have already dozed off.
From the last 2 years, I have attended more than 30 motivational sessions and classes conducted by social speakers. Well, you might think that I have a lot of free time for these public functions. But believe me right now, I am in the stage of life which decides my career. So my parents make sure that I don’t get deviated from my “path of success” by making me attend these functions and persistently bragging about the importance of studies. If this happens in everyone’s home, I’ll feel like a “normal being”, if it isn’t then it’ll be a hell of a roller coaster ride for me.
Scenario of a motivational session
Moving on, in these functions the FIRST questions I hear are “What is motivation?” and “Why do we need motivation?” And they just drag these two questions throughout the session and they get a huge round of applause. A couple of weeks ago, our college management conducted a session thinking it would help us (students). At first, most of us were frightened thinking what we would encounter here. But it turned out to be a good session and after its completion (i.e. 3 hours).
We realized that we were motivated for something-we-actually-didn’t-get. Believe me, most of us didn’t even find a prime reason for sitting there. My friend who was beside me shook me and asked, “How was it?”. I had a sudden shock and I looked at him perplexedly and noticed everyone were clapping their hands and due to peer pressure I too started. My friend asked, why was I clapping my hands? And I replied, why shouldn’t I when everyone else was. And he replied there was no point for me to clap my hands because I had slept throughout the session with my eyes OPEN.
A session speaker
I realized that because he told me. Looking back at it now, I think about what I did in my last 30 sessions. Did I clap for a reason or….? If the same thing had occurred, I would be in a “cul-de-sac” of my career in no time. However, our session speaker was in his mid 70’s and had even bothered to prepare a PPT. I think that was a wise decision as most of us would have dozed off (like me) if we were just to listen. So if we got bored we would glance at the PPT. That was for two reasons. One is age gap and two, most important of all, we weren’t sure of what he was motivating us for.
A way to begin
What I’m trying to convey is, before starting a session instead of starting by asking a question, they ought to explain that the session will motivate us for XYZ. If they just do that one thing, I’d take my moments to think whether I’m interested in XYZ or no. If yes, I’ll learn something from it, otherwise I’ll just walk out.
What we need motivation for?
Let us take a few examples. I want to be a computer programmer. So I should get motivated by an IT professional in his mid 30’s. My friend (Maddy) wants to become a writer. So, he should get motivated by an actual writer. Another friend wants to start a YouTube channel with an aim to share his ideas on DIY projects. So (you guessed it) he should get motivation from a person who owns a channel. Since we 3 have different aims there’s no point for us to attend the same session. Still (due to compulsions), we had to attend that session which gave us some tips on ‘CONQUERING’ examinations.
How it helps
Attending something from which we think will be beneficial for us, we don’t hate it. In the same way, if we attend a session which will be useful for our career there’d be no reason for someone (like me) to doze off. As the topic will be related to our career, all career options suggested by others feel unrelatable to us. We’d be connected to the speaker mentally and it feels like we know what’s the next thing he’s going to say. We get to know about more ways of working in our field. And if they share their journey, we’ll try not to make their mistakes and even if we do, we’ll know how to come out of it.
According to me, a motivational session shouldn’t be a general speech delivery program. It should have a principle topic on which it’ll be motivating its audience for. It shouldn’t look like some elders are telling us not to waste time and we should move on with our studies. And motivation doesn’t necessarily mean providing tips for studies and examinations. It can be on anything, provided the listener should have something to do with it for his future. Otherwise it shouldn’t be like he’s dragged into one of those things without any motive or interest. Well, it was different in the case of my parents. They forced me to attend these sessions because they were (and are) anxious about my future. But it isn’t their problem. It’s actually I who make them so worried.
The way we are
No kidding, but at this stage me and some of my friends are hoping for a MIRACLE to happen in our life.
Believe it or not, within 2 months or so, our career will be decided based on our results of some competitive examinations. And instead of studying for that, I and my friend (Maddy) are applying for various freelancing jobs as writers. And my friend is learning video editing for his YouTube channel. See, this is the kind of thing we should get motivation for. But still our elders keep on persuading us for studies. The quote I mentioned above is not for any elaboration or explanation, it is actually what I and my friends follow in our life. We already know what we want to become, so we’re pursuing that. Because we believe that, “To BLOG and To VLOG, you don’t need any marks”. But our parents…..(sigh)!!!